The Key To Understanding Children’s Fears
Being afraid of the dark, the bogey man and the monster in the closet are all part of growing up. We have all experienced being scared of something at some point and time in our lives and this helps us to be empathetic towards our own kids who are going through their own fears. Parents play a vital role in helping their kids conquer their fears by understanding children’s fears
How Can Parents Help?
Parents should be understanding of their kids fears and nit try to downplay it or trivialize it simply because you no longer have those fears. Never abandon your child. Always stay with a child who is scared, until the fear and anxiety subsides as leaving them alone will only make it worse. Another approach that can cause more harm than good is making the child feel stupid for being scared. Make your child aware that you are confident in their ability to handle the situation. This vote of confidence from your side will go a long way in equipping your child with the right tools to overcome their fears.
What Causes Fear in Children
Initial studies showed that fear was caused by behavioral conditions which basically means that if a child is bitten by a dog, they develop of fear of dogs. Later, studies showed that some people are born with sensitive temperaments that make them more prone to fear and anxiety. However, it is important to remember that we all experienced fear as children and it is a normal part of growing up. Children of different age groups experience different types of fear. A toddler or small child may have a fear of monsters, because at this age, they still believe that monsters exist. An older child may simply fear the dark or being alone.
These childhood fears eventually and gradually disappear. A parent should be worried if a child is still suffering from fear and anxiety way past the expected or normal age group. If it is interfering with the normal functioning of the child and the daily activities that a child should be enjoying, then alarm bells should be going off.
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