The Questions Single Parents Should Ask When Dating
For single parents, dating can be a complicated venture. Some questions can help you decide if the person you are dating is right for you, and for your family.
Ask about his/her previous relationships.
You want to know if relationships he/she had in the past were successful and happy, or whether he/she has a history of turbulent relationships that ended badly.
Ask about his/her approach to conflict.
You want to know he/she is able to cope with conflict in an appropriate manner, and that he/she does not resort to unhealthy patterns of fighting, withdrawing, or blaming.
Ask about his/her views regarding children.
Whether you want more children or do not want any more, you and your prospective spouse must be compatible. You also need to know if he/she is prepared to make a commitment to both you and your children.
Ask him/her about his viewpoint on household responsibilities.
You need to know he/she shares your opinions regarding child-care tasks and chores in the home.
Ask his/her viewpoint on marital troubles.
Your prospective spouse may think a quick divorce is the best solution, or he/she may believe in working through problems. He/she may think couples should resolve their own difficulties, or agree that counseling is an option.
Make sure your beliefs and values are compatible.
Having the same values is an important part of a successful relationship. Values can cover everything from avoiding infidelity to methods of child-raising.
Ask about his/her plans for the future.
Does he/she have specific goals for himself, family, career, and other aspects of his life? A mature person is not only thinking about today. While he/she may not have hi/her entire life planned, he/she should be able to tell you what he wants to do with his/her life.
These are some of the topics to address when you are thinking about including a new person in your life and in your family. The more you know about him/her before you make a commitment, the better your chances will be of a happy future.
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